It’s crazy how many times we use the word “but” each day.
“I know it’s really important to be healthy and work out,
but my life is too crazy right now.”
“I really love you and I’m sorry I didn’t pick up the dry cleaning,
but I lost track of time.”
“I had a great time with my family during Thanksgiving,
but I wish I would’ve said…”
“I had a great lunch with my friend today,
but I don’t think I reacted the way he wanted me to react when he said…”
When we use the word “but”, we are negating every word that was said before it. For some reason, what should be more important is almost always said BEFORE we use the word “but”.
Not only do we use “but” when speaking to others, but also when talking to ourselves. If you think about it, we talk to ourselves way more than we talk to others. Using “but” when talking to ourselves can ruin our self-image and our entire outlook on life. Using “but” in our self-talk can be really dangerous.
It’s dangerous because the word “but” is always going to be followed by an excuse or an exception.
My challenge for you is to keep track of how many times a day you use the word “but”. Are you making an excuse? Are you avoiding responsibility for your actions? Are you allowing one negative thing to steal your joy?
Is the first part of our sentence more important than the last? If so, we really need to start using our words more carefully – both aloud and silently.
“My day is looking really hectic,
but I’m going to work out today because it is important for my health.”
“Honey, I am so sorry that I lost track of time and
forgot to pick up the dry cleaning when I told you that I would.”
“I should have said what was on my mind,
but I had a great Thanksgiving dinner with my family.”
“I’m going to touch base with my friend to make sure that
I didn’t offend him when I reacted that way. I had such a great lunch with him!”
“I’m not where I want to be, but I’m not where I used to be!”
Let’s be sure to acknowledge the good in a situation instead of letting our big “BUT” ruin it. Let’s own our mistakes without making excuses for them. Let’s allow our words to truly display what our priorities are. When we do this consistently, our actions will be sure to follow!