We all want to be loved, look beautiful and feel accepted. On social media we want comments from friends and family, 500 likes on our Facebook post and 1,000 followers on Instagram but, we cannot and should never allow others to validate our self-worth.
Instead of looking on the outside for validation, let’s focus on fine-tuning these inside features to radiate beauty and confidence from the Inside Out naturally.
The number one feature you can have to look and feel great is confidence.
Unfortunately, society tells us we need to look a certain way, be a certain size, and be below a certain age. Certainly, the only thing certain about that is that it’s certainly not realistic.
Don’t believe the illusion behind the deception. Our worth does not come from looking a certain way. If you don’t believe me, go to the mall, church or school, and people watch. You’ll realize we’re all not the same and do not look like the images we see on TV or any form of media.
Put those untruths aside and instead become self-aware. Become aware of
- your strengths and weaknesses
- what you like and dislike
- the how and why you react to different situations
When you know these features of your personality, you’re prepared to handle anything that comes your way.
Confident people do not concentrate on their weaknesses; they develop and maximize their strengths.– Joyce Meyer
You’ll radiate confidence from the inside out naturally when you’re doing things that maximize your strengths and are being purposeful in all that you do.
If your working on building up your weaknesses, that’s great! Tell yourself, I am a work in progress and I will get better with practice. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with grace, mercy, and forgiveness.
Be positive and hold your head high and walk into that party, meeting or office with your own self-confidence!
An attitude of gratitude helps you focus on what you have and not on what you don’t. When you’re focusing on the positive, you’ll have less time to focus on the negative. Having an attitude of gratitude means you enjoy life now without waiting for something big in the future.
For example, let’s all stop living for the weekend. If you are not happy about your Monday through Friday and you “live for the weekends” do something to change the situation. Love every day of your week. Remember, this type of change won’t happen overnight. Start by making small steps towards your goal. After all, every step even the small ones are a step in the right direction.
Just like worry, does complaining get you anywhere? Instead of complaining, let’s count our blessings. If you need to get it out of your system, then do it and be done. Embrace and accept all you’ve been given. Not only the good but the bad. Likewise, use both to your advantage. Count your blessings and bless someone else.
Confidence from the Inside Out comes from being grateful for everything no matter how small. By and large, having a grateful heart and mind takes practice and a good memory. To help remember, write down three things you are thankful for at the end of your day. Or write down an entire list of all the things you are grateful for and look at the list daily.
If you’re a visual person, make an affirmation wall or board. Write down your favorite inspirational quotes and put up pictures of all that makes you happy. Use photos of your kids, dog, car, a flower, or friends to name a few. Look at your board daily and say thank you.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.― Lao Tzu
Of course, change is happening minute by minute. Many experiences you had a year ago are different today. Loosen the grip on people, places and things in your life. We are all living, breathing and changing so expect and embrace change. Move forward, let go and relax. Invest in the present and future because you can’t change the past.
Time to Reinvent
In the same way, when a change occurs in your family, career, or lifestyle, it doesn’t mean that you neglect your outward appearance.
In light of a change, think of it as a time to reinvent your look. For example, have you switched careers? Now is the time to come up with a new, fresh and up-to-date look for your new job.
Together with self-confidence be sure to dress in clothes that make you feel confident and comfortable.
Have fun trying new things; you never know what will make you feel confident and attractive.
Going back to the first and foremost beauty tip, have confidence in the unique person God made you to be. Confidence from the Inside Out comes from realizing God created each of us unique. Instead of comparing ourselves to someone else, we should celebrate the way He made us. Life would be boring if we were all alike.
As women, we are very hard on ourselves. We look at other women and wish we looked like them, or we wish we had their personality, etc. Comparison is the thief of joy and will leave you feeling less than, not enough and about an inch tall.
Remember, what we see in the media isn’t real life. Go to the mall, and people watch. Think about how we are all uniquely made, and all have something to contribute to the good in the world. God doesn’t want us to focus on the negative. He created each of us unique, and we are beautiful in His eyes.
Instead of wasting time comparing, develop confidence from the inside out by investing in yourself with healthy eating, exercise and surrounding yourself with positive people, encouraging books and an attitude of gratitude.
Lift up the next generation of leaders
Be a role model for the next generation of leaders. Show younger women how beauty is not all about outward appearance but how it comes from the inside out.
I love to lift up young women and show them how to be professional, have character and confidence.
You may think the younger generation of women isn’t paying attention, but they are watching. Show them the way!
Focus on being kind to others. Sounds so simple, doesn’t it? Until we’re in a rush, late for an appointment and someone is moving slowly ahead of us. Not so simple now, is it. In the long run, being late for an appointment really doesn’t matter. What matters is being kind which makes you feel good, lifts your spirits and the spirits of others.
Remember to stand tall, proud and smile. Think about what you have instead of what you don’t and use both to benefit yourself and others. You’ll radiate confidence from the Inside Out and your confidence will attract more of the right kind of people to you.
Finally, smile at someone. You never know how much that person needs just a smile. Furthermore, a smile has another benefit, it’s the best facelift, and it’s free!